My Girlfriend Is Pregnant — What do I do? (Washington DC Metro Area)
Finding out your girlfriend is pregnant can feel overwhelming. You may be in shock, confused, or unsure what to do next.
In most cases, the next steps are simple: talk openly with your girlfriend and get professional help to confirm the pregnancy and understand your options.
First: Talk Honestly and Support Each Other
Your girlfriend is probably feeling many of the same emotions as you. One of the best things you can do right now is to be present and communicate openly in a two-way discussion.
Here are some practical first steps:
Ask how she is feeling physically and emotionally
Let her know she is not alone in this
Listen without immediately trying to “fix” the situation
Share your thoughts honestly and respectfully
Avoid making a rushed decision
Even if you are unsure about the future of your relationship, you are both facing this situation together right now.
It’s also important to remember that your thoughts and feelings matter too. You were part of creating this pregnancy, and clear, respectful communication from both sides will help you make better decisions moving forward.
Second: Go to a Pregnancy Appointment Together
Once you’ve had time to talk and process things, the next step is to confirm the pregnancy with a medical appointment.
A pregnancy test and ultrasound can give both of you clear information about the pregnancy and your options. Going together can help you support her and give you both greater clarity.
A pregnancy appointment can answer important questions such as:
Is the pregnancy confirmed?
How far along is she?
Is the pregnancy viable?
Where is it located (for safety reasons)?
What options are available moving forward?
Mosaic Virginia offers free pregnancy confirmation appointments in Alexandria, Fairfax, Herndon, and Lansdowne.
Third: Get Additional Support
Talking with someone outside the situation can help you think more clearly and reduce stress. This could be a trusted friend, family member, or advisor.
If you are in the Washington DC metro area, you can also speak confidentially with a male mentor at Mosaic Virginia. Having a neutral person to talk with can help you process and think through your options.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If you’re in the Washington DC metro area, Mosaic Virginia offers free and confidential support, with four convenient locations in Northern Virginia. We provide help for couples facing unplanned pregnancy situations and support over 1,300 clients each year.
Call us at 703-729-1123 to schedule a confidential appointment.
No matter what you decide, we care about YOU! Your life matters.
FAQ
What should I do if my girlfriend is pregnant?
Start by staying calm and talking honestly together. Confirm the pregnancy with a medical-grade test and ultrasound, learn about your options, and seek support from trusted professionals and people you trust.
How can I support my pregnant girlfriend?
Listen without judgment, ask how she is feeling, attend appointments with her if possible, and remind her she is not alone. Emotional and practical support can make a major difference during an unexpected pregnancy.
Should I go to the pregnancy appointment with her?
If she is comfortable with it, going to the appointment together can help both of you better understand the pregnancy, ask questions, and discuss next steps with medically accurate information.
What happens at a pregnancy consultation?
A pregnancy consultation may include pregnancy testing, an ultrasound to determine how far along the pregnancy is and whether it’s viable, where it is located (for safety), and information about available options.
Mosaic Virginia Locations: Alexandria, Herndon, Fairfax and Lansdowne
Mosaic Virginia does not provide or refer for abortion services. We provides services at no cost to you and without discrimination to people of any age, race, income, nationality, religious affiliation, disability, or other arbitrary circumstances. We are pro-woman and a non-profit 501(c)3 organization. We do not provide or refer for abortion services.
